The best drinks to order at a bar for a woman come down to what you enjoy, not what anyone says you should drink. At Pinstripe Bar, a cocktail bar in Ubud, the choice can be as bright and refreshing as you like, or as dry and spirit-forward as your taste demands.
Some evenings call for something fruity and sparkling. Others suit a classic cocktail with added depth, or a carefully made alcohol-free drink. The best choice is simply the one that matches your taste, mood and the occasion.
This guide looks at different flavour profiles and highlights the kinds of drinks worth considering, so you can arrive with a better idea of what to order. If you are choosing for company too, see the companion guide on what to order as a guy at a cocktail bar.
Choose a Drink Based on Your Taste
There is no wrong drink to order, only one that suits you better than another. The best drinks reward you in one of two ways. They take a spirit you already enjoy and show you a new side of it, or they introduce a flavour combination you would not have thought to ask for.
Balance matters more than novelty. The most memorable drink is rarely the sweetest or the most elaborate one on the list. It is the drink where the flavours work together, and the style suits the person ordering it.
If you are unsure, tell the bar team what you normally enjoy. Mention a favourite spirit, fruit, flavour or level of sweetness, and let them guide you from there.
Bright and Fruity Choices
If you prefer lighter, fresher flavours, start with a bright and fruity cocktail. These drinks can be particularly appealing on a warm evening in Ubud, when refreshing flavours suit the setting.
A sour is a useful place to start. The classic structure combines a spirit with fresh citrus and sweetness, creating a balance between sharp and soft flavours. A fruit-forward daiquiri takes a similar approach while putting more emphasis on fresh fruit.
For something sparkling, an Aperol Spritz combines bittersweet aperitivo with sparkling wine and soda. It is lighter in style and designed to be refreshing rather than intensely spirit-forward.
Fruity does not have to mean overly sweet. A well-made cocktail should still have enough acidity, bitterness, or herbal character to keep the flavours balanced.
Elegant and Spirit-Forward Cocktails
For a drink with more depth and presence, classic spirit-forward cocktails offer another route.
A Martini, traditionally made with gin or vodka and dry vermouth, has a clean, concentrated character. It is a good choice for someone who enjoys tasting the spirit rather than having it softened by fruit or heavy sweetness.
A French 75 takes gin in a brighter direction, combining it with lemon and sparkling wine for a crisp, celebratory drink. A Negroni offers something more structured, with the bitterness of Campari balanced by gin and sweet vermouth.
For something richer, an Espresso Martini brings coffee depth to a cocktail built around vodka, coffee and sweetness. It is particularly suited to an evening that calls for something more indulgent.
These are not drinks reserved for a particular type of guest. They simply suit people who enjoy more pronounced flavours and a slower, more considered drinking experience.
What to Order at Pinstripe Bar
At Pinstripe Bar, the cocktail experience is about more than choosing between something sweet or dry. The bar’s drinks are connected to storytelling, carefully considered ingredients, and a setting inspired by the elegance of the 1930s.
For something bright and fruity, the Jack and Rose is a natural choice. The winner of the Campari 2019 Indonesia competition, it brings together jackfruit cognac with coco pandan Campari, rose, and prosecco, resulting in an elegant, sparkling, and unmistakably Balinese drink. The Sweetheart takes a softer route, building Veritas Rum and Aperol with strawberry, jasmine, tarragon, and whey into something gentle and lightly savoury.
For a classic, the Apéritif Martini is dry and herbal, combining Tanqueray No. TEN with Dolin Dry, Cocchi Americano and Luxardo Bitter Bianco, with a light bitterness that lingers rather than bites. If you love an Espresso Martini, the 24K Carajillo is the one to try, built with Ciroc, Nusantara cold brew, Thai tea, espresso, and cacao bitter.
For an alcohol-free evening, the Sober Guide is made with the same care as the rest of the list. The Apero Cosmo brings cranberry, pomegranate, passion fruit, and ginger, while Kembang Desa layers jasmine tea with kalamansi, lemongrass, and kaffir lime leaf. Among the best drinks to order at a bar for a woman who would rather skip the spirit, both hold their own.
Reserve Your Table at Pinstripe Bar
Choosing the best drink to order at a bar for a woman does not require following a set of rules. Start with what you already enjoy, consider the evening’s mood, and let the bar team take you somewhere a little different if you are open to it.
At Pinstripe Bar, the cocktail experience comes with views across the rice fields and the Valley of the Kings, along with an intimate atmosphere designed for an evening of drinks and conversation.
For the best experience, arrive with an idea of the flavours you like rather than a fixed idea of what you are supposed to order. The bar team can help you find a cocktail that fits.
Reserve your table at Pinstripe Bar and settle in for an evening of cocktails in Ubud.
Frequently Asked Questions
A few questions come up repeatedly when guests decide what to order, so here are clear answers.
What Are Girly Drinks to Order at a Bar?
“Girly drinks” is an informal term often used for sweeter, fruitier, or more colourful cocktails, such as a Cosmopolitan, daiquiri, or spritz. But these drinks do not belong to any particular gender. Order what you enjoy, from something bright and fruity to something dry and spirit-forward. Your taste matters more than the label.
What Should a Beginner Order at a Bar?
If you are new to cocktails, start with something refreshing and approachable. A spritz, sour, or simple highball can be an easy introduction because the flavours are usually familiar and the drink is not dominated by strong spirit character. You can also tell the bartender what you normally enjoy. If you like citrus, coffee, tropical fruit, or sweeter flavours, they can suggest a cocktail that suits your palate.
What Drinks Should a Woman Order at a Bar?
There is no specific drink a woman should order at a bar. The right choice depends on your taste, the occasion, and how you want the drink to feel. For something celebratory, a sparkling drink such as the Jack and Rose is a good fit. For a quiet evening, a Martini or a well-made non-alcoholic drink rewards slow sipping. The best approach is to tell the bar team whether you lean fresh and fruity or dry and spirit-forward, and let them point you towards the right glass.
